Outright Disrespectful.

I love my religion and I do not claim it to be perfect - it is pretty flawed with many corrupt and selfish leaders, but who claims to be perfect anyway? Anyone who wishes to question anything that has something to do with my religion is welcome for a healthy discussion. However, giving me comments without a chance to dissect all the reasons; and giving out conclusive, biased judgment is outright disrespectful. We can't even know ourselves fully until we spend our lifetime, how else can we know and judge an organization, a community, a culture, or a religion that has sprouted and existed for generations? Can one, two, or three inconsistent incidents justify a clouded judgment? I beg to disagree.

People wish to be heard and understood but these same people refuse to listen and understand. It is heartbreaking how they demand something they are not capable of giving. One can't fully understand something if one's heart is already clouded - what's the point of asking if you only intend to mock and judge?

What good is it to point a shotgun at someone and tell that person: "Okay, today, I shall spare your life"?

If that was you, shaken to death by a gunpoint, did keeping you alive relieve you of the fact that you almost died? Or did keeping you alive make you feel good about that person you are willing to get pointed with a shotgun again? Scare you, again? I don't think so.

Yes, I may be alive but I will carry with me that trauma in my lifetime. The fear, the regret, the flashback of a gunpoint will keep haunting me. Or maybe not, but I don't want to find out. The price is not worth it and the cost is too much - my sanity, worst, my life.

The same is true with judgemental communicators. Some people are so insensitive they don't care how their message is delivered as long as they broadcast it to the world, they are relieved. They have very little to no care about other's feelings or well-being. They don't care about pointing a shotgun at you if that's the only way for you to listen. I call it abuse and I refuse to be abused twice so really, once is enough for me.

I can only tolerate respectful and healthy communication. I will only respect people who respect themselves first and offer the same respect to me through tactful words.

I understand that hurt people hurt. So experiencing toxicity from people is not new to me, I've always been a willing recipient. However, over time I also have some expectations that these people have already grown, matured, evolved, or at least have started to care, right? Is it too much to ask to be cared for?

A healthy relationship evolves for the betterment of everyone involved. You don't grow solo in a relationship (friendship, couples, siblings, family, organization). You either grow together or sink together - that's what any relationship is like. Therefore it is important to have a shared mission, vision, and core values because that anchors all involved in the relationship.

When communication is lacking in a relationship, misunderstandings, mistrust, and emotional distance can quickly take hold. Without effective communication, conflicts may escalate, intimacy may diminish, and unresolved issues can lead to resentment and frustration. Emotional withdrawal, loneliness, and a breakdown of connection are common consequences of poor communication, as partners struggle to express their needs, feelings, and concerns. To prevent further damage, individuals must prioritize open, honest, and empathetic communication to foster understanding, trust, and emotional closeness in the relationship.

I wish to reiterate, that we must prioritize open, honest, and empathetic communication to foster understanding, trust, and emotional closeness in the relationship. That is if your goal is to grow and make the relationship last. Otherwise, don't bother at all.